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Stay Positive Brothers & Sisters


Hello Hello Hello my wonderful people 🙂

How are we all doing today?

Christmas is around the corner and I know the binge eating has started already after speaking to some of you LOL. As long as you’re happy and enjoying life it’s all good – But do be careful that you don’t go TOO overboard as that bloating feeling is never nice and the weight gain really ISN’T cool – I’m sure we’d all agree on that right 🙂

Anyway, how quickly has time flown. We’re rapidly approaching the start of 2014 whilst simultaneously approaching end of 2013. Did you all have a successful 2013? I sure hope you did. If you didn’t, it’s not the end of the world and you should never be too hard on yourself – What’s the point?

2014 is a new start for new success, new money, new memories, new love, new friends and new clothes if you so desire LOL

But on a serious note, if you didn’t achieve what you wanted to achieve this year, reflect upon why that is?

Really sit down in silence and ask yourself some questions – You may find that talking to yourself a few times a week actually helps you to put things into perspective and helps to give you clarity as to what it is you really want from life.

It’s a big misconception that talking to yourself deems you as mad – I actually talk to myself aloud for at least 20 minutes a day (by myself of course LOL) and it has helped me to work out situations, dilemma’s and major break throughs that I wouldn’t of arrived to had I not been speaking with myself.

With that being said, allow me to share with you todays “Quote of the week” from my main man Will Smith – Who remembers Fresh Prince 🙂

“No matter how hard things may seem, don’t get down, and don’t give up. The clouds will clear, and there are brighter days ahead”

A lot of the quotes I share with you are along the lines of “Not Giving Up” and that is because as humans, we tend to give up easily upon being faced with a difficult situation.

We all like the easy way out as the easy way out is the easiest option of course. I mean, it is easy to quit, give up or stop trying (which are all essentially the same thing) because then we can tell our minds:

“Well at least we didn’t fail right…”


By quitting, we enrol onto the course at the “Failure Academy” and are well on our way to a masters degree/PhD in Quitology – Am I right or am I wrong?

When we quit, it is planted into our sub conscious minds and it remains there as emotional blockage until we do something about it. We continue with our everyday lives carrying this blockage at a cellular level tricking ourselves about the whole thing – Who can identify with this?

We feel down when things don’t go our way and then we get even more stressed when we quit. So in theory, what we have just done here is created a vicious cycle for ourselves.

I call this “The cycle of doom”

When we are in the cycle of doom or in the picture frame metaphorically speaking, it’s inevitably impossible for us to see the bigger picture – But we must remember, where there is dark, there is light (even if you can’t see it at the time)

Saying that, I then ask you this:

If a situation you deem as bad helps you to become a stronger individual, can it still be deemed as bad?

You see, whilst in the “bad” situation, you are in the picture so to speak, and again, this makes it difficult for you to see the bigger picture.

Allow me to share a quick exercise with you all which helps me at times like this.

Paradigm Exercise

1) Close your eyes and imagine yourself very clearly in the picture and all that’s going on around you

2) Imagine yourself now stepping out the picture whilst holding onto the frame for guidance and support

3) Now, imagine yourself again very clearly looking at the picture you just climbed out of, however, you can still see yourself in the image (the situation)

What this does is puts you into what I call “3rd person perspective” and allows you to analyse the situation from another perspective than how you’d normally view it – Very Powerful Exercise!

As humans, it’s in our nature to be hard on ourselves – Where did this even come from?

What has being hard on yourself ever caused you but grief, headache and possibly a degree of self hate (Would you be hard on a loved one – Your child, parent or lover?)

I’ve said it many times before but I’ll say it again – There is a difference between being critical of thy self and being down right hard (sub-conscious abuse I call it)

I have discovered the poison in my mind and I am consciously working with it and on it EVERYDAY. The sad thing is right, a lot of people live their lives this way and never work at ridding the poison of the mind (most likely due to their lack of awareness of it all) which is why I combine motivational quotes with my personal experience to hopefully help some of you who may be going through what I’m currently going though. They say, help others and you indirectly help yourself – So true!

I’ve discovered that Life is a game of polarity – What do I mean exactly?


We appreciate good times for we know bad times

We know happiness as we’ve felt sadness

We know of ying and yang

And we recognise darkness as we are moving through the light of Life 🙂

Life is a game of polarities and to master the game, we must learn to integrate both the polarities…

Positive vs Negative 

Key points for today

* Keep loving yourself as being harsh for making mistakes isn’t loving yourself


* Step out the picture frame every now and then (See my blog post on 3rd person perspective where I go more into the subject)

* Talk to yourself like you would a Guru/Master Teacher or God (If you are religious that is)



I love you all

David Richards




“I’ve found that luck is quite predictable. If you want more luck, take more chances. Be more active. Show up more often”.

Some would say that there is no such thing as luck. However, you will also find others who’ll claim that luck is based on how much work you put in. If luck is indeed based on the amount of work put into a given situation then luck can only be attained by hard workers right…?

I’ve also heard that we create our own luck and I am of this notion. For us to create our own luck means we must first have to create our own situations. In order to create our own situations we first need to know what we want to create…Straight forward isn’t it.

Ask yourself – What situation do you want to be in right now? What is it you want out of life… Success?

It’s easy to say you want to be successful but what does success really mean to you? What happens when you reach success? Does it stop there or is there more to pursue? Really ask yourself these questions and ponder on your answers for a moment.

Say for example there is a guy who has been working out for 8 consistent years. He has his dream physique and happens to pick up all the females when he goes to the beach (clearly because of his body) – Would you say this guy is lucky that all the females are attracted to him or would you say it was the 8 years graft that put him in that situation?

Or let’s say there is a single Mum who starts her own business in child minding. She struggles to look after her own child on top of setting up a business in looking after children but this is what she wants out of life. She makes sacrifices, struggles along the way but continues to persevere. 5 years later her business is worth 7 figures! She’s now an official millionaire.

Some people will say “WOW, look at the house she lives in, the car she drives and all the money she’s got, she’s a very lucky woman”.

Would you agree and say that she’s lucky…If so, why?

Or would you say that she created her own luck through hard work, perseverance and sacrifices?

I use to have a different view on “Luck” and thought I was never a lucky guy because of situations I’ve had to overcome but some may say I was lucky to be challenged by those situations as they’ve enabled to teach others and become a stronger individual myself…What are your thoughts on that?

I now live my life with the belief that we create our own luck and below are some steps I follow everyday to help me stay within that luck threshold.

How to become Lucky

So you want some luck, try the following steps:

  1. First make space in your life for luck. REMEMBER, anything you plan on keeping needs the required space for it to be kept. You never buy a new car if you have no space to park it! Once enough space has been allocated,we can then move onto the next step.
  2. Figure out what you want out of life or where you want to be. With no destination we cannot strategically plan our route. With no route we have no redirection. You have to know where you’re going first in order to get there.
  3. Once your destination has been established, know what steps have to be taken in order to get there. It’s like knowing what roads you’re going to take to get to your destination.
  4. Embark upon your journey – Things won’t always be easy travelling this road but know that just like traffic, it’s only temporary and even though it’ll slow you down you’ll still get there in the end.
  5. Remember to enjoy everyday on your journey and don’t get to wrapped up on the journey. In other words, enjoy everyday of life and never focus to much on the end goal. (A mistake society makes everyday)

It’s through following these steps where luck starts to materialize itself in your life if it hasn’t already. It’s when people start to look at you and say “You’re lucky because…..

Quotes by: Brian Tracy/David Richards