Posts Tagged ‘Patience’

What’s up my beautiful people,

How are we all doing on this fine day. I hope everyone is doing well, enjoying life and achieving their goals.

I’ve been well for those asking thank you 🙂

I’m back in the gym 5 days a week now, 100% clean eating (well a little treat on weekends LOL) and I’m half way into my ebook – I’m doing one for free and releasing a self published version – So I’ve been a busy bunny guys.

I aim to blog at least twice a week now (I’m scared to make any promises LOL) but I want to help you guys as much as I can whilst living a balanced social life.

But without further ado, let’s get straight to business…

Goals and Motivation

I believe that life has added value when we have goals to work towards, wouldn’t you agree?

It gives us motivation and drive to focus our energy on something that is likely to bring us success in the future, and I’m sure we all want to be successful in life.

Staying motivated isn’t easy though, and I’m sure we’ve all been in a situation where we’ve lacked motivation in some way, shape or form – But there are many tools to help us stay on track and today I will share some with you.

Before we get to the juicy stuff though – Let me ask you all a question or 2…

1) What does Success mean to you?

2) Do you believe that you have what it takes to go and make success a reality for you?

Meditate on that for a moment…

As humans, we sometimes grow up facing face self doubt and this can affect how we view ourselves on a daily basis. Believe it or not, self doubt can be the determining factor as to whether we obtain success or not and I’ll tell you why…

If you don’t believe in yourself, who is going to believe in you? Who is going to keep you going when times get tough eh?

And if you start doubting your character, its also easy to find excuses to give up when times get rough.

Self doubt will have that little voice in your head telling you that you can’t do it or even worst, put you in a state of procrastination saying:

 “I’ll Do It Another Time” – Poison to be avoided at all cost!

Also, if you don’t see yourself in a positive light, it’s hard for others to do so as well. Subconsciously without realising, the state of self doubt will have you carrying yourself in a certain manner that is easily noticeable by others around you.

For example, your body language, the way in which you speak and how you carry yourself in general are all critical factors that determine whether someone views you as confident or not.

(I will write a post soon about how to boost Confidence in day to day life)

But as today is all about Motivation, below I will share a tip to help you stay Motivated and on track with your goals.

Visualisation

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I’ve spoke about Visualisation before, but it is a vital part of the process where goal setting and staying motivated is concerned. I usually sit with my clients and get them to visualise what it is that they want from life. Without visualising where you want to be, how can you know where you want to go. Think on that for a moment…

Visualise very clearly and vividly what career you want for yourself. Visualise your dream partner. Visualise your dream car. Visualise the amount of money you want to make. Keep dreaming and dream big my people. If any of you have watched the DVD the Secret or know anything about Law of Attraction, you will know how important visualisations are. They bring about a wonderful feeling in the present moment of now. One thing the DVD didn’t really mention though is that:

Law of Attraction + Action = Success

You see, you can’t just dream big and take no action…You have to go out there and make stuff happen…Ya Dig!

Write Down Your Goals

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I don’t mess around when it come’s to goal setting. I have my goals written down in a small book that I carry around with me. It’s a constant reminder why I can’t eat McDonalds when I’m doing a Bodybuilding show or a modelling shoot.

You always want to review your goals daily to help you stay on track and to keep the consistency going.

Bedroom walls, the kitchen, the bathroom i.e are all great places to stick your goals up. Write them down on a piece of paper (post it notes even) and stick them up all around your house. This is how I practice and adopt self motivation…

You see, I’m a guy who loves my food – And I mean LOVE my food LOL – So staying motivated when it comes to getting abs isn’t always the easiest for me. (My earlier followers have seen me out of shape before – I will try and re-upload the pictures to show you how far I’ve come from being tubby to the boy with abs)

That’s it for today though my people, I hope you’ve enjoyed reading as much as I’ve enjoyed writing 😀

I’m going to be bringing back the much requested:

“Quote’s Of The Week” – You guy’s showed me a lot of Love for those blog post there, so it’s only right.

If y’all want me to cover any issues, hit me up on my contact page and I’ll see what I can do.

As always – Much Love and Blessings to You All

David Richards

DEE’S FITNESS

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Hey Guys,

How are we all doing in this fine moment? If you’re able to read this now it’s means you’re breathing and if you’re breathing I say you are blessed – Even if you can’t see how blessed you are 🙂

February is already here! If you haven’t got started with your 2014 goals yet, please share with me what you’re waiting for?

If you haven’t set any goals yet think about what you want from life…

From there you’ll have a great starting point to go from. Goal setting give’s us direction in life and without direction we are lost…Would you agree?

Through consciously setting goals over the past 10 years I have learned many lessons (some of which I will share with you today).

One of the many lessons I’ve learned is directly related to:

“Expecting” and “Expectations”

And that my friends brings me to today’s QOTW:

“Expect Nothing and You Will Never be Dissapointed”

Where do I start???

I have faced many set backs and hard ships on my journey in life so far. Many of which could have been avoided had I not allowed my expectations to consume me.

Expectation is a funny little entity and I’ll share with you why that is.

You see, on one hand a person can be sure to expect success upon applying themselves each and everyday over a period of time.

Let’s take fat loss for example.

An over weight person aiming to loose 14lbs CAN expect to loose weight upon performing regular exercise. They CAN expect to drop body fat upon mainating a clean and balanced diet and they sure CAN expect to loose the fat upon learning to be patient.

So why is it then that expectations can cause so much pain, hurt, dissapoinment and grief upon not getting what we had set out for?

This same question puzzled me for some time (still does every now and then).

However, I feel I have the answer to this one (or I’m some what close)

I find that when I want something really bad I can tend to become a bit obsessive.

(Please note, we’re not talking about girls here, more along the lines of goals OK lol – Just had to put that out there)

When I say obsessive, it’s not always bad though. It’s just that when I know I can make something happen and believe I have the control over how quickly it can happen, I want it to manifest instantly (Patience, Patience, Patience David)

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When we want something new in our lives time really does become pain in the back side right… and I’m sure we can all relate on that one lol.

Now we could be talking:

Fat Loss – In our minds the fat should have been gone YESTERDAY

A New Car – Time makes it seem like the car you’re driving now looks like something out of chity chity bang bang (Especially if you have your eye on a new motor)

A New Job – The thought of your new salary could have you feeling like you’re currently making pennies although you’re doing fine now

A New Partner – Hmmm – Don’t get me started on this one (hehehe)

We’ve all been there…

CONTROLLING THE OBSESSION

When we obsess on what we want and allow the obsession to consume us, it’s easy to find ourselves in a situation where the obsession itself leaves us in a place where we no longer feel good about what is coming to us…Sound familiar?

Controlling your obsession(s) is critical for when we are discussing expectations. (And this is from my own personal experience)

Also, it’s crucial for us to learn, NOT to expect, that which we have no control over…

To expect something from which you have no control can only put you in a bad place and likely to end in misery.

I know as I’ve been there…

Allow me to share a story with you – True story by the way.

(This time to do with girls or a girl in particular)

David & The Girl

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A few years ago when I worked in a local gym, one of my roles was to give customers a free Induction and a 45 minute Personal Training session upon them joining.

I met these two young ladies around my age group who I had the pleasure of giving the induction to. We all got along really well and I’d find myself helping them out with their training sessions when they came to the gym to train.

One of the two females wanted my Blackberry Pin (Instant Chat) so we could engage in conversation OUTSIDE THE GYM – To this I had no objections. Giggiddy 🙂

We started talking more and more and became real good freinds.

I’d arrive to my shift at work with news that she’d been in the gym to train and had come looking for me (Boy did this get to my head)

I felt we had a good vibe going and so did others around me as they kept saying:

“Dave, go for it mate”

So I did just that…

Expecting she would say yes (due to the good vibe we had going), I bottle up the fear and anxiety us males go through when asking y’all out on the first date (yes females, it isn’t as easy as we make it look) and I just went for it…

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WOOP WOOP WOOP -I broke out doing the happy dance as she said yes (you will see the happy dance one day if you’re lucky lol)

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THIS IS HOW I FELT WHEN SHE SAID YES LOL

So what happened after that then Dave, tell us more???

Your guess is as good as mine people, your guess is as good as mine (Sad Face)

I mean, we went on a few dates and it was going really well. At that point I was expecting us to progress further but it just never happened. The strange thing is though right, I knew she liked me…

(Females, I’m still trying to study your species lol)

She mentioned a few times about trust issues relating with her ex but who knows…

Maybe it was a polite way to fob a guy off hahaha….But life is such…

Conclusion

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Story aside though, can you see why expectations can be a bit of a 50/50 gamble?

I feel if you have no say so in a situation then you really can’t expect anything…

However, if the expectation you have set is in your control so to speak, for example, saving money or dropping pounds of fat, then by all means go for it…

Speaking for myself though, I EXPECT to do well in life as I am doing all the things one has to do to become successful:

1) I work smart

2) I practice patience

3) I give without wanting to receive

4) I’m motivated

5) I set goals and dream big

6) I am willing to take calculated risk if it means personal growth for myself and others around me

I could go on but I’m really not trying to toot my own horn here. I’m simply trying to share with you a reality which is available to ALL OF US. A reality which is available to us if we simply apply ourselves.

Focus on becoming a better version of YOU everyday as it’s your God given birth right to do so!

My blog is how I lead my life. I couldn’t tell you to something and not do it myself (Well I could, but it’s not in my nature)

So guys, what will it be?

To expect or not to expect?

Your life, Your choice…

~Thank you for reading –  Nothing but Love as always~

David Richards

DEE’S FITNESS

Quotes by: Susan Bay/ David Richards

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Wassup y’all,

How are all my wonderful people doing today?

We’re soon hitting the 1st of February already. It amazes me how fast time flies. It feels like just the other night I was boogying the night away on new years eve lol.

Apologies for not sticking to my word and posting up this weeks quote on Monday as I promised. I am truly a man of my word and hate letting people down. Truth be told, life happened…

My insomnia has been playing up real bad recently and I’m trying to juggle a lot of things at the moment. I set so much goals for myself that I think I need to slow down a little and practice the art of balance in ALL areas of my life. So once again, please do forgive me 🙂

As of January the 23rd I have officially hit the big 25 (woop woop)

I still look like 17 though so it’s all good lol.

Ribs, chips, fried calamari, onion rings, coleslaw…It really went down lol – Check my Instagram picture to see what took place 😉

Anyhoo,

Today I wanted to talk about Patience as it’s a word that we have all faced before and will continue to face throughout the duration of our lives.

And that my people brings me to this week QOTW:

“Patience is self control over a long period of time”

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Me and impatience use to hang  out together as if we were best friends lol. No kidding right, I use to be so impatient that I wanted things instantly. I mean, don’t get me wrong – I was willing to put the work in to get what I wanted, it’s just that I always wanted it NOW NOW NOW!

Being a personal trainer I come across many people who want their dream physique instantaneously. It’s understandable though – The world we live in now, 90% (if not more) of the population want things done yesterday.

Out of that 90%:

45% are willing to put in the work

45% just want it by any means necesarry

I am going through a stage in my life now where I am consciously practising “The art of Patience” and boy it’s not a easy game…

I’m currently working on a product for the fitness industry and have been working on it since June 2013.

You can’t believe the patience I have had to learn over the last 7 months. My heart just wants to release the product to everyone but there has been so much legal work, paper work and ups and downs to go through that I have had no choice but to be patient. It’s been a critical life lesson for me not only for future business ventures but also other areas of my life.

~Everyone has the ability to be patient~

However, some are better at exercising patience over others. In order to work on being patient you have to first be conscious about your level and ability to be patient in the first place.

I kid you not, my life has improved SIGNIFICANTLY since I decided to work on my patience and my level of intolerance.

I used to get aggravated just by sitting in the traffic. Some might say that’s normal but I don’t want to follow the norm. It makes no sense being aggravated over something which you have no control over. Think about that…

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I find that when you become more patient life seems to just flow. I talk a lot about the flow of life because I have found that the flow is accessible to EVERYONE.

Sadly, some choose not to go with the flow  or simply aren’t aware of it’s presence.

I have made it my job to help others find this flow as I want everyone to be happy…

Simples!

From my own experience I can understand why being patient “appears” to be hard. When we are practicing patience we have to also learn to let go a little.

So within practising patience also comes “The art of letting go”.

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There’s a difference between letting go and giving up, allow me to explain…

Letting go is knowing that you are still working on your goal but not obsessing with it so to speak.

Giving up is simply that…Giving up!

Knowing and establishing the difference is vital before you can see improvement.

When I first stated learning to let go I felt as if I was going crazy as I had conditioned myself to “obsess” where a goal was concerned.

Let me give you an example – If you are doing a 90 day challenge to drop 14lbs but you get to day 90 and have only lost 9lbs, the average person would get angry with themselves and start with the negative self talk…You start telling yourself:

“I knew you couldn’t do it, just give up” OR

“Don’t worry that you didn’t make it, your a failure anyway” OR

“At least we tried, might as well go back to eating crap”

But you know better right…

Instead, exercise patience, loving yourself and say:

“Well, I done everything I could to loose the 14lbs and it didn’t happen in 90 days…

O well, at least I’m on track to losing another 5lbs to get to a total weight loss 14lbs…

Hmm, I’m a lot closer than I was before aren’t I…

Plus, I look better, feel better and half of the hard work is done…”

Hug yourself at this point, feel good about yourself for all your hard work and keep on pushing!

You see, humans don’t think like that – We beat ourselves up and for what???

~ENOUGH IS ENOUGH~

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Are you still beating yourself up in 2014?

A balance of monitoring your thoughts & being patient will improve your life drastically – Use me as an example if you don’t anyone around you that has tried.

If you’ve been following my blog over the last 18 months you will know that everything I share with you is from my own personal experience and straight from the heart.

The sooner we start loving ourselves and stop with the negative self talk the sooner we will all be happy and living the lives that we all deserve AND want to live.

HAPPINESS, JOY, SMILES AND LOVE – Why else would you want to live?

Have a great week and keep your head up people.

~Love as always~

David Richards

DEE’S FITNESS

Quotes by: Dr Malachi Z York & David Richards – Time for a change

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Hello Hello Hello,
How is everybody doing out there. I hope you’re all doing well and loving the brighter side of life 🙂
I’m currently 3 days into my 90 day diet leading up to the WBFF European championships so my carbs have dropped quite a bit but I’m looking forward to seeing how I can change my body again in 90 days (A separate post to come)
Other than that I’m all well. I’m trying to practice what I teach to others by getting as much as I can out of life everyday whilst I’m alive and this has led me on a direct route to happiness. You may want to try this route…
Anyways, let’s get into the good stuff and what you came here for. This weeks quote is:
“Always do your best. What you plant now, you will harvest later”
I’m a strong believer in this quote here. It totally makes sense to me in all aspects of my life now. The work that we put in today will pay off at some point down the line (Never try to figure out when though – this is key)
People easily get discouraged when they do something and don’t see instant results. We live in a society where everyone wants things to manifest instantly. I too can be like this sometimes and maybe even yourself or someone you know. I suppose it’s human nature.
It’s not a bad thing I guess but patience is essential if we want to strike the right balance between doing and receiving/seeing.
Once you understand the Law of patience and the Law of time, it becomes easier to identify when you’re not being patient and as a result causing yourself unnecessary stress and anxiety.
A perfect example of the time/patience principle is when looking at training/eating and seeing results.
How many times have you heard of or even come across yourself, someone who hasn’t stuck to clean eating/smart training. They quit half way through a new program because they haven’t learnt to exercise patience properly. I believe this happens  not due to laziness or lack of will power but the lack of education or knowledge even on preparing the mind. What do I mean by this?
You see, when you start a new program that last let’s say 12 weeks plus, you need to change your state of mind.
“Change starts from within”
It’s like going into a battle thinking happy thoughts…It doesn’t make sense does it. If someone is going into a battle, there state of mind should be geared towards war and all things related (well you think that would be the case anyway). The same applies to dieting/training or any other aspect of your life.
Metaphorically speaking, let’s say you start at point A in the alphabet and the goal you set was at point Z. Every clean meal you eat & every training session you complete with 100% effort you move up the alphabet getting closer to Z. Can you see that by remaining strong and sticking to the program you get closer and closer to Z every time even if you can’t see Z ahead of you.
Essentially what your doing here is planting your seed at point A and watering it everyday travelling up the alphabet until you get to point Z (reaching your goal).
Balance is needed between taking everyday as it comes (enjoying the journey) and seeing the bigger picture when you get disheartened half way through. EVERYTHING IS BALANCE.
So remember folks:
“Always do your best. What you plant now, you will harvest later”
Peace and Love to you all and may your harvest come to you in abundance.
Have a great week and don’t let no one stop you from smiling 🙂
NAMASTE
David Richards
DEE’S FITNESS
Quotes by:  Og Mandino/David Richards