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Hey Guys,

How are we all doing on this fine day. I hope everyone is well and enjoying life the way it’s supposed to be enjoyed 🙂

Today is just a quick thank you to all my followers and viewers for making this site as phenomenal as it is. If I didn’t have followers, I wouldn’t be as motivated to keep the site going. But you guys support me with your e-mails of gratitude, your views and your follows and it really does mean a lot to me – Thank You.

I don’t know what direction this site will go in, but I will continue writing content from the heart as it seems that is what you guys like. I now literally have followers from all over the world and this fills me with joy as I never knew it was possible. I never anticipated how massive this site would actually grow. From a hobby to something I look to form as a life time career.

I’m a normal guy in my 20’s from the UK who started this site to make myself a name in the fitness industry not really knowing what that entailed. Since then I have competed in two bodubuilding shows, helped 1000’s of people to stay motivated, inspired, and on track with different areas of their lives.

I’ve seen that the material I write actually benefits peoples lives and this really does mean a lot to me as I never knew I had the potential to be a writer in any way, shape or form…

I even had a woman from my gym share with me that from reading my website it helped her through her divorce – Thank you for sharing this with me and I hope you are reading this now.

After seeing 1600 people sign up to my site in just 40 days with no promotion from my end, I knew that I had to write a book and continue sharing material with y’all.

I would start my YouTube channel now, but I don’t know if I can be 100% consistent as of yet hence why I’m waiting until 2016 to see how my time table changes.

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My Journey Has Been Incredible

My Journey Has Been Incredible

I don’t know when any of you started following my site, but if you started following me in 2013 just before my first bodybuilding show, you will have seen my progression from the chubby boy in the gym to the guy with abs in just over 90 days – It is possible for anyone to sculpt their dream physique, you just gotta want it badly enough…

Setting goals and achieving them is what I’m all about and I love helping you guys to do the same – I’ve been doing it for over 3 years now and look to continue in bigger and better ways 🙂

They say setting goals and achieving them deems you as a successful person – I agree on this one.

We can all be successful and happy – We just have to strive for it knowing that it is possible.

~If you think something isn’t possible, then you’re right. If you KNOW it’s possible, then you are also right. It’s all about how you think and what you believe that defines your reality~

The Wrap Up

Before I go though, I just want to share with you guys a picture of when I first started going to the gym. I feel to share this picture as I speak to so many people that don’t believe it’s possible to get abs or to even sculpt their dream physique and this is both a lie and limiting thought process.

The moment I said, OK, time to change - No more talking!

OK, time to change – No more talking!

I remember I took a trip out to the sunny Islands of Jamaica in 2007 and I was trying to suck in my belly every time a hot girl walked past, but it just wasn’t working – Sad times right 😦 LOL

That’s when I knew it was time for me to do something…

IT WAS TIME FOR ME TO MAKE THAT CHANGE!

Then after years of dedication, consistency, clean eating and smart training, I evolved like a Dragon Ball Z character into this:

Girls can't keep there eye's of me at the beach now ;-)

Girls can’t keep there eye’s of me at the beach now 😉

NOW when I go to holiday, it’s a totally different ball game. The girls are coming at me from left, right and centre (yes I am smiling as I write this hehehe)

I used visualisation techniques and saw what I wanted to look like and I surely got there in the end…

Moral of the story: If I can do it, so can you…

I love you guys

~Stay Strong~

~Stay Positive~

~Keep Focused~

~Learn To Let Go Of The Past~

~Smile Everyday~

And live life like today is your last

LOVE, PEACE & POSITIVE VIBES

David Richards

DEE’S FITNESS

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What’s up my fabulous people 🙂

How’s the motivation coming along? Are we all still pumped up from our January 2014 resolutions or have we started to slow down? The good thing is, goals can be set the moment you decide to set them. What I mean is, you don’t have to wait until the start of a new month, the start of a new week or the first thing Monday even – Set them as of when you are ready 🙂

Today I wanted to talk about “Inhibitions” and “Caring”.

I’ll first start of by saying…

At the age of 25 I am finally starting to loose all of my inibitions…It’s about time as well lol

I am a very conscious person and this conscious energy I contain has translated to me as “Nervousness” for many years throughout my childhood to this present day.

The thing is right, I’m a very confident person. I’ve just misunderstood why I’ve felt so self conscious around people all this time…

I’m conscious about my body language when I’m talking to others…

I’m conscious as to how my breath is smelling (Did I eat red onions at lunch?)

I’m conscious to the fact that I may have sleep in my eye and that the person I’m talking to may just be too polite to tell me…

Ohhh, here’s a good one: I had some broccoli at lunch time, do I have green stuff in my teeth lol

I mean, all of the above examples are things we are all conscious of, but in my head I am standing there and over analysing to the point that I’m not fully into the conversation…LOL, yes I have issues I know. So although I’m in the conversation, my mind is elsewhere…

But through my madness I’ve realised that there is a difference between being self conscious and “Caring to much about what others think”

And that my friends leasds me to todays QOTW:

“Never be afraid to be you and to be true – Shine your light bright as only you can do it right”

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People care what others think about them due to the fear of judgement…

We care what others think so much that we don’t express our true-selves. I know as I “used” to live like that and speak to many others that still do.

This is not true living. Living true to yourself and being free means you are able to express yourself without the fear of  what the next person will say, do or think!

Society has created what it means to be “Normal” and I do not agree with it whatsoever…

Since when does a group of people have the power to create “What it means to be normal”

Being normal is being you…Don’t beleive the hype my people…

But we feel we have to conform to the norm. I’ve stopped conforming and I am now truly living just being myself and NOT what others want me to be, do or act.

And whoever doesn’t like it…Guess what they can go and do…

Actually, we will keep it polite and clean around here lol.

Seriously though…

I don’t mind when I’m called strange or different. Why on earth would I want to live and be like everyone else? What fun comes from “being normal”…

I find that “normal” people are boring and follow along like sheep doing what the rest of society and the population are doing…Hell no!

Where does my individuality then come into place?

Or yours?

I believe that whoever created us also created us to be different. (Hence we all have diffrent finger prints, eye colour, body types etc)

We quite clearly weren’t created to be the same. I mean, let’s look at it from DNA cellular level…We are all biologically made up differently if you want to start talking science.

That being said, I also beleive that we were created to express our individuality and too not judge others on the way they chose to go about living their lives.

(The same way we wouldn’t want to be judged for our differences in thoughts, feelings and emotions)

Nothing is weird or strange to me anymore – Just different.

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For me to call something or someone weird, I’d have to be basing that of something I’ve seen before that wasn’t of the norm to me. So between me and my sub coscious mind we’d interpret it as weird as we don’t get it or understand it.

And this is the problem we humans have today. We reject, judge, criticize and analyse that which we do not know or understand. We will then find another 10 people who agree with our view point and judge that “one person” for being different…I hope you are following me…

Who give’s us the right to do that?

I believe the world would be a better place if we all expressed ourselves in a positive light…

Imagine 10 people making a cake compared to say 20 people?

Now the cake may not necessarily taste nice with the input of 20 people but it sure as hell would be different right…Not something out of the norm…

On the other hand it could be the best tasting cake you’ve ever ate, down to everyone’s creativity, love and freedom to add what tasted good to them…You following me?

We all see life through a different lens based upon our up bringing, past expereinces, pain and joy.

No one person will see anything the same – Maybe in a similar light yes, but never the same.

100 people can read the same book and all translate it differently. This is because we are all special individuals…

Dropping your inibitions takes conscious everyday work – I know as I’m currently going through it and have been doing so for say the last 8 months or so.

I find it does get easier though, so no need to fear. However, simply having this knowledge and not taking action upon it does nothing.

I find that to truely ackonwledge something you have to “act upon the knowledge” hence why it’s called acknowledge(ment).

For example – If you’re a guy and you like the colour pink but you are living in the fear of judgement of what others will think about you, then you my man will never be truly happy.

(Although pink is quite a feminine colour for a man) that is simply just my opinion and not something that you should concern yourself with – You see what I just did there???

Ladies, my beautiful ladies –  So what if someone doesn’t like the shoes you’re wearing: Ask yourself…

Am I wearing these shoes to impress others or am I wearing them for my own happiness and pleasure?

I’m confused as to how we humans even got into this state where we care so much about other peoples opinions of us. I know for sure I wasn’t born like this, you wasn’t born like this, so what’s up???

How did we reach this place in our lives where we care so much?

I say it’s the media, society and the taboo’s we are faced with everyday.

Men feel like their penis isn’t big enough because of mainstream media and the crap that comes with it.

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Women feel they have to wear make up, false hair and nails because the magazines and modelling shows (the media again) say that THIS is how they should look or that THIS is what is in fashion and the “norm” to follow…

We have all been trained to be consumers of designer branding…

iPhone, Samnsung, Louis Vuitton, Nike, Adidas, BMWs, Mercedes…

People feel like their status is highrer than those who cannot afford Gucci or the latest smart phone…WTF?

I smell consumerism…

We live in an ego driven society that I will get deeper into at another time as I don’t want to deviate too much today…

I’m 25 now and I’m no longer holding back on ANYTHING!

It has taken for me to identify some KEY issues within myself  to then discuss the issues with you and too hopefully help you identify and solve them yourself.

You know that song “EXPRESS YOURSELF” – Let’s all make that our new ringtones and alarm clocks until we really get the message lol.

I’ve changed big time over the last 18 months and pretty damn quick too (For the better mind you) This change took place as I wasn’t happy with the way I was living before and knew that I was the only one that could do anything about it…

I am now the first to dance at a party if I feel like dancing. I don’t care about others looking at me like:

“Hey dude, it’s way to early to start dancing”

SAYS WHO???

I dance when I want to dance and ain’t no boddy stopping me. If my song comes on then I’m on the first on the dance floor dropping it like it’s hot baby 😉

ENOUGH IS ENOUGH GUYS – BE YOU, BE TRUE

The moment I stepped on that stage November 9th 2013 and strutted my stuff is the day I said good bye to fear.

It’s the day where I dropped much of my emotional baggage, inhibitions and much needed bull crap which was in the form of:

Others peoples opinion on me, what I looked like etc

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Who’s that guy with the Afro?

I got on stage in front of 1800 people in just my underwear and my afro…

(I’m sure that will change anyone actually LOL)

But for real, I had to reach a place where I thought:

You know what, screw what anyone thinks about me…It’s my life, my stage and my time…

And this is the mind set that many of us NEED to adopt to start truly living and enjoying life. Every time you get out there whether it be your place of work, the local shops or anywhere in general…Just remember that:

It’s your stage and your life…

Now like I said above – It will take a lot of work and effort to drop your inhibitions as we have been living like this our WHOLE lives. The older you are the more work you MAY have to do…

However, I promise you that it does get easier…

It’s either that or live and not be 100% happy…

It’s Your life, Your choice and Your free will…

Much Love and Peace to you all

NAMSTE

David Richards

DEE’S FITNESS

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Hey Guys,

Seeing as it’s the last day of the year I thought I’d write a small post about some random stuff and kinda just go with the flow…

Where do I start? 

2013 has been one of the best years of my life. I started the year with no vision that I’d be where I am today. Life has a way to carry you down this stream if you learn to go with the flow. I’d set many goals at the start of 2013 and through setting out to achieve them, life has taken me down this path that I hadn’t anticipated.

I’ve learned a lot about myself as an individual by going through life and trying to learn from everyday experiences.

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This year I’ve travelled, achieved goals, met new friends, over come challenges, helped people who’ve come across my path and I am living everyday as if it’s my last – I am literally trying to squeeze as much joy out of life as I can. Imagine life was toothpaste in the tube about to run out – That’s the type of squeeze I’m talking about lol.

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I done it – I made it happen – So can you!

 

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Never give up!

I never started the year knowing that I’d compete in not one, but two bodybuilding/fitness shows standing in front of 1000’s of people. I never knew that I would experience my first professional studio photo shoot with a top photographer in the city of London. I never knew or saw any of this guys. I mean, I saw it in my mind and knew that I would make it happen one day but I never this year would be the year. It makes me think, none of us know where life is going to take us. We just gotta stay positive and keep trying. PERIOD!

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First Photo Shoot – Grown man Swag 😉

 

Life’s way too short not to enjoy. It’s too short to remain angry at someone because of something that happened in the past. It’s too short to harbour negative energy towards anyone because in turn all that will happen is it will affect your happiness. 

I mean think about it. If you’re in a state of mind where you’re constantly seeking to get revenge on someone, how happy in your life can you truly be?

I have learned to forgive all the people in my life who have hurt me in the past and who will hurt me in the future as I want to live in peace with myself and be happy. Deep down we all know that true happiness doesn’t arrive until we are at peace with ourselves.

Please do not confuse what I mean when I say forgiveness. I don’t mean forgiveness in the traditional sense as in “Forgive, forget and be friends again”, but forgiveness as in to forgive so you can be at peace of mind.

I look back at my life now and can see that I have truly become a man. Upon reflection, I can see that I have come a long way from where I use to be. I now recognise that my life has been one big lesson. Each day is really a school for learning. 

All the situations I’ve been in that I once called negative or bad have been stepping stones to make me the guy that I am today. 

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“Without negativity in my life, I wouldn’t aspire to be positive” 

I know this may sound crazy to some but I now appreciate negativity in my life. In fact, I appreciate all the polarities which fall under negativity.

Let me explain. When I’m angry, I learn to be remain calm. I don’t like getting or being angry, so I consciously focus my attention on remaining calm when I find myself in “negative” situations. Through mastering and learning to control all negative aspects of ourselves we become stronger individuals. I hope you now have a better understanding of what I mean when I say I welcome negativity in my life.

I now view life as a game. One big massive game. And within this massive game contains games within games (Inception).

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We all play the numbers game which requires everyday participation.

In fact, the numbers game takes up the majority of our lives. If you are not playing in this game, life will become very difficult for you.

If you hadn’t clocked on by now I’m talking about “Money“. In today’s reality we are all playing the numbers game and you have no choice but to play (unless you live out in the hills somewhere)

But I’ve realised something – Life isn’t actually all about money. You may think I’m contradicting myself, so again allow me to explain…

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On the bigger picture of life, we are all human. We all have the same God given needs and are made up of the same bio-logical structure. We all need love, food, shelter, health and air to breathe right…

From what I find truth in, life is all about creating. It’s about creating and sharing with the world what you are good at. Developing your natural born skills, loving others and doing your part to making the world a better place. However, this isn’t our reality…

 Instead, we live in a world where our reality has become “Survive Survive Survive”.

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We are all so busy trying to survive and live…So much so that we’re not getting the opportunity to truly live and enjoy life. You following me?

It’s not all bad though as within all of that I have also learned something else. We all have the power to shape our reality…

Who controls your thoughts? YOU

Thoughts are what make up your…? REALITY

Now, if your thoughts are what make up your reality and you control your thoughts then you can clearly understand that you are the one with the power. And we all know that with power comes responsibility…

WE ALL HAVE THE POWER TO SHAPE OUR REALITY

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When you make a comment such as:

“I’m depressed because this person hurt my feelings” OR

“I’ve had a bad day because my boss was being a bone head”

Do you realise you that you have given that person the power to control how you are feeling? You are consciously allowing them to shape your reality. No one deserves that sort of control over you but YOURSELF! Never forget that!

Looking back at life and thinking over 2013 I can truly see that I am living in a different reality to which I use to live. I don’t even feel like myself any more at times. That might sound bad but it’s actually a good thing.

I think what has happened is, I’ve realised my true potential and what I can achieve in this life time. But because I’ve created this self image of myself which is a portrait of all my lower aspects, I’ve identified myself with all those lower aspects and have been living my life thinking that “That is who I am” and “That is all I am” .

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When I speak to people about this subject, I see that we are all in it together. Many others have created this poisonous “Self Image” of themselves that have stemmed from hurtful past experiences which have built up and manifested into emotional blockages such as confidence issues, fear, worry of failure, lack of self worth, fear of rejection…We don’t believe in ourselves and I believe this is the root cause of it all.

We don’t see all the good things we have been doing in our lives. We don’t recognise all the wonderful things we have been doing for ourselves and others around us until someone points it out. Why?

Because we were “just” being “Ourselves”

What does your self image say about you?

Do you walk with confidence because you know your true worth or are you living a life filled with fear?

 

Do you know how special you are? If so, do you embrace it?

If not, ask yourself why exactly you are not special?

Listen to the answer you hear in your mind? The answer may be along the lines of a mistake you’ve made in the past.

Whatever it is, face it, analyse it, work with it and make peace with it. Don’t move into 2014 with any unnecessary emotional baggage. If you are carrying baggage, make 2014 the year to drop the load and live in peace. 

I could type forever but seeing as it’s New Years Eve I don’t want to bore you any longer lol.

Guys, I wish a you all a wonderful 2014.

Don’t be too down on yourself if you never made it happen like you wanted to in 2013. Just review what could have been better and make it right for 2014.

That’s the good thing about failure. You fail, You “learn”, You make it right and go for it again and again until you finally get right…

You will realise soon enough though that because of “failure” you learned to reach success and had it right all along…

HAPPY NEW YEAR 2014

Yours Truly

David Richards

MR DEE’S FITNESS

Morning guys,

I wanted to share this video clip with you all as I have recently been speaking with people who appear to lack self confidence for a number of reasons.

A lack of self confidence can hinder the quality of your life in a number of ways and in the next few weeks I will cover the subject more as ALOT of people suffer with this condition or even state of mind.

What does a lack self confidence mean exactly?

Well firstly, let’s look at what “Self Confidence” means:

“A feeling of trust in one’s abilities, qualities, and judgement”.

So a lack of self confidence could lead one to not live to their true potential.

I find this quite sad as the world “would”be a better place if we all shined our lights bright with confidence.

We are ALL special in our own right and all have the skills and abilities to make the world a better place. It’s just about digging deep to find our talents and having the confidence to share it with the world.

State of mind is something I will be covering a lot more as I get more into my psychological research/studies.

For now, enjoy the video and remember:

“Fears are like limitations, they don’t exist”

Have a great day and Love to you all

David

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UPDATE – 17/11/13 – I was waiting for my pictures and they have finally come through 😀

Sorry for the delay guys. I’ve wrote the post but I’m not 100% happy with it. I shall have the complete write up ready for the 16/11/13 (tomorrow)

Thank you for your patience.

David Richards

DEE’S FITNESS

Quote of the week

Posted: Feb 4, 2013 in Motivation
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Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.

Helen Keller