2014 Brand New Quote of the Week – Stop Expecting So Much

Posted: February 3, 2014 in Life, Motivation, Quotes
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Hey Guys,

How are we all doing in this fine moment? If you’re able to read this now it’s means you’re breathing and if you’re breathing I say you are blessed – Even if you can’t see how blessed you are 🙂

February is already here! If you haven’t got started with your 2014 goals yet, please share with me what you’re waiting for?

If you haven’t set any goals yet think about what you want from life…

From there you’ll have a great starting point to go from. Goal setting give’s us direction in life and without direction we are lost…Would you agree?

Through consciously setting goals over the past 10 years I have learned many lessons (some of which I will share with you today).

One of the many lessons I’ve learned is directly related to:

“Expecting” and “Expectations”

And that my friends brings me to today’s QOTW:

“Expect Nothing and You Will Never be Dissapointed”

Where do I start???

I have faced many set backs and hard ships on my journey in life so far. Many of which could have been avoided had I not allowed my expectations to consume me.

Expectation is a funny little entity and I’ll share with you why that is.

You see, on one hand a person can be sure to expect success upon applying themselves each and everyday over a period of time.

Let’s take fat loss for example.

An over weight person aiming to loose 14lbs CAN expect to loose weight upon performing regular exercise. They CAN expect to drop body fat upon mainating a clean and balanced diet and they sure CAN expect to loose the fat upon learning to be patient.

So why is it then that expectations can cause so much pain, hurt, dissapoinment and grief upon not getting what we had set out for?

This same question puzzled me for some time (still does every now and then).

However, I feel I have the answer to this one (or I’m some what close)

I find that when I want something really bad I can tend to become a bit obsessive.

(Please note, we’re not talking about girls here, more along the lines of goals OK lol – Just had to put that out there)

When I say obsessive, it’s not always bad though. It’s just that when I know I can make something happen and believe I have the control over how quickly it can happen, I want it to manifest instantly (Patience, Patience, Patience David)

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When we want something new in our lives time really does become pain in the back side right… and I’m sure we can all relate on that one lol.

Now we could be talking:

Fat Loss – In our minds the fat should have been gone YESTERDAY

A New Car – Time makes it seem like the car you’re driving now looks like something out of chity chity bang bang (Especially if you have your eye on a new motor)

A New Job – The thought of your new salary could have you feeling like you’re currently making pennies although you’re doing fine now

A New Partner – Hmmm – Don’t get me started on this one (hehehe)

We’ve all been there…

CONTROLLING THE OBSESSION

When we obsess on what we want and allow the obsession to consume us, it’s easy to find ourselves in a situation where the obsession itself leaves us in a place where we no longer feel good about what is coming to us…Sound familiar?

Controlling your obsession(s) is critical for when we are discussing expectations. (And this is from my own personal experience)

Also, it’s crucial for us to learn, NOT to expect, that which we have no control over…

To expect something from which you have no control can only put you in a bad place and likely to end in misery.

I know as I’ve been there…

Allow me to share a story with you – True story by the way.

(This time to do with girls or a girl in particular)

David & The Girl

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A few years ago when I worked in a local gym, one of my roles was to give customers a free Induction and a 45 minute Personal Training session upon them joining.

I met these two young ladies around my age group who I had the pleasure of giving the induction to. We all got along really well and I’d find myself helping them out with their training sessions when they came to the gym to train.

One of the two females wanted my Blackberry Pin (Instant Chat) so we could engage in conversation OUTSIDE THE GYM – To this I had no objections. Giggiddy 🙂

We started talking more and more and became real good freinds.

I’d arrive to my shift at work with news that she’d been in the gym to train and had come looking for me (Boy did this get to my head)

I felt we had a good vibe going and so did others around me as they kept saying:

“Dave, go for it mate”

So I did just that…

Expecting she would say yes (due to the good vibe we had going), I bottle up the fear and anxiety us males go through when asking y’all out on the first date (yes females, it isn’t as easy as we make it look) and I just went for it…

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WOOP WOOP WOOP -I broke out doing the happy dance as she said yes (you will see the happy dance one day if you’re lucky lol)

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THIS IS HOW I FELT WHEN SHE SAID YES LOL

So what happened after that then Dave, tell us more???

Your guess is as good as mine people, your guess is as good as mine (Sad Face)

I mean, we went on a few dates and it was going really well. At that point I was expecting us to progress further but it just never happened. The strange thing is though right, I knew she liked me…

(Females, I’m still trying to study your species lol)

She mentioned a few times about trust issues relating with her ex but who knows…

Maybe it was a polite way to fob a guy off hahaha….But life is such…

Conclusion

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Story aside though, can you see why expectations can be a bit of a 50/50 gamble?

I feel if you have no say so in a situation then you really can’t expect anything…

However, if the expectation you have set is in your control so to speak, for example, saving money or dropping pounds of fat, then by all means go for it…

Speaking for myself though, I EXPECT to do well in life as I am doing all the things one has to do to become successful:

1) I work smart

2) I practice patience

3) I give without wanting to receive

4) I’m motivated

5) I set goals and dream big

6) I am willing to take calculated risk if it means personal growth for myself and others around me

I could go on but I’m really not trying to toot my own horn here. I’m simply trying to share with you a reality which is available to ALL OF US. A reality which is available to us if we simply apply ourselves.

Focus on becoming a better version of YOU everyday as it’s your God given birth right to do so!

My blog is how I lead my life. I couldn’t tell you to something and not do it myself (Well I could, but it’s not in my nature)

So guys, what will it be?

To expect or not to expect?

Your life, Your choice…

~Thank you for reading –  Nothing but Love as always~

David Richards

DEE’S FITNESS

Quotes by: Susan Bay/ David Richards

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