Why Can’t You Do It?

Posted: August 27, 2013 in Life, Motivation
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YOU CAN DO IT! YOU ARE SPECIAL! YOU ARE PHENOMENAL!

They say anything is possible right? If so, why do we always find ourselves saying we”can’t” do this or we “can’t” do that? Please allow me to invite you as I share this weeks blog post:

I Can’t do it syndrome” 

What does it really mean when we as a people say we cannot do something?

I’ve found that over the years since I started personal training that many of my clients would claim that they couldn’t do something without even trying first? This could be anything from  a new exercise movement, to lifting heavier weight  or even starting a new food plan.

I find it interesting that we sometimes feel we cannot do something without attempting it first…

When being faced with a new challenge the majority of us have this pre conceived misconception that we cannot do what is being asked of us?

Where does this stem from? Could it be self doubt on a sub conscious level or a lack of self esteem even?

I’m afraid I don’t have the answers to this (yet), however, what I do have is a list of exercises/things you can do to help you when you find yourself saying “I can’t”.

Before I continue, let me start by saying this:

“If you believe you cannot do something then you are right, you cannot do it. Start believing you can do it however and you will open up the door to a world of possibilities”

I sometimes always think about the new goals I want to accomplish and  find that at times I sit there thinking about the end result (the future) so much so that I start to believe that what I want to accomplish isn’t possible.

Just through the thoughts I’ve created in my head, I’ve come up with this false reality which may never happen.

By focusing to much on the future and the end goal (not living in the present) we start to create situations which don’t exist and this leads to “I can’t do this” or “I can’t do that”…

Can you see the pattern?

The list below are exercises/things which I practice to help me get through the “I can’t do it syndrome”.

The “I can’t do it” syndrome help list

1) Stop saying I can’t! – Further more, take can’t out of your vocabulary period. We’re all trying to move forwards in our life and the word can’t has no place for those of us moving towards success. The moment you say you can’t do something you subconsciously place yourself in that false reality.

2) Look how far you’ve come already – Look at where you are in life today! We’ve all had our share of ups n downs in life but yet you are here today reading this now strong as ever. Remember the tough times you have had to come through when you are next faced with a challenge. No challenge is ever to big for you. Focus your energy on what needs to be done and do it. No excuses.

3) Present Moment vs Future Moment – As I explained earlier, by creating future scenarios in your mind which don’t exist, you create anxiety which causes stress and a whole heap of headache. Let your mind wander when you find you’re thinking into the future too much or dwelling on the past even.

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4) Small Steps – Take small steps, one step at a time. We believe we can’t do something when it’s bigger than us and that’s reasonable logic. I have come to learn that breaking stuff down is vital and essential in order to get past the I can’t syndrome. A 12 week goal for example can be broken down into:

Week 1-4

Week 4-8

Week 8-12

From here you can break it down even further into days, hours etc

5) Go easy – It’s one thing demanding excellence within your day to day life –  But to be too hard on yourself for then making a mistake or a small screw up does you no good mentally. It’s crazy because, people do so well in life and upon the smallest mistake they make they start throwing around “I can’t do this any more” – Does this sound like you?

6) Question the statement!

“I can’t diet for 20 weeks”

“I can’t complete a 4 year university course”

“I can’t be a good mother/father”

“I can’t, I can’t, I can’t”

WHY CAN’T YOU? WHAT’S STOPPING YOU?

Question yourself until you find an answer as to “WHY”  you believe you cannot do something and you may find that your answer surprises you. Try it out maybe?

7) Self Talk – Some call these affirmations (well they are) but we’ll stick with self talk for today. When you feel the can’t word tying to pop it’s little head up, say to yourself:

“I CAN DO IT”

“I CAN DO IT”

“I CAN DO IT”

“I CAN DO IT”

“I CAN DO IT”

AND REPEAT

The louder you say it the better! Wanna step things up a notch? Try looking in the mirror whilst doing it. You might feel silly at first (very likely actually LOL) but just be conscious to the fact that you are doing something to help with your self development

We will find ourselves in situations that seem impossible to tackle but just remember to take your time, break down whatever it is you’re trying to do and NEVER be to hard on yourself!

You are special and YOU can do anything it is you put your mind to! NO-ONE can ever take that away from you…

PEACE & LOVE

~NAMASTE~

DAVID

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